“There is a fundamental reason why we look at the sky with wonder and longing—for the same reason that we stand, hour after hour, gazing at the distant swell of the open ocean. There is something like an ancient wisdom, encoded and tucked away in our DNA, that knows its point of origin as surely as a salmon knows its creek. Intellectually, we may not want to return there, but the genes know, and long for their origins—their home in the salty depths. But if the seas are our immediate source, the penultimate source is certainly the heavens… The spectacular truth is—and this is something that your DNA has known all along—the very atoms of your body—the iron, calcium, phosphorus, carbon, nitrogen, oxygen, and on and on—were initially forged in long-dead stars. This is why, when you stand outside under a moonless, country sky, you feel some ineffable tugging at your innards. We are star stuff. Keep looking up.”—Neil de Grasse Tyson (via christomsun)
I realized that I really don’t like it when someone says ‘people don’t change’. Because it’s just untrue. Of course, the most difficult thing to change is your own behaviour. But through self reflection and eventual help, it is definitely possible to recognize what you can change and then decide to actually do it. So many people overcome their addictions everyday, or say to themselves that this can’t go on any longer, and that they need to stop doing what they’re doing. I myself changed so much in recent years. Through my education, year on my own abroad, personal relationships, conversations with my friends and family and various experiences, I have gotten a much deeper understanding of who I am and what I am capable of. Nothing dramatic or serious; I just know that people do change. Sometimes for the worse, and sometimes for the better. Not everything is in your own hands. Not everybody gets the same opportunities. But what you do with your opportunities is eventually your own choice.
"By dismissing a woman’s behavior or concerns as crazy, we inadvertently take part in a behavior known as “gaslighting.” Named for the classic George Cukor movie, gaslighting is a term used by psychologists to describe abusive behavior where a person is made to feel as though their emotions and reactions are irrational, even (dare I say) crazy. By constantly minimizing and dismissing someone’s reactions, we make them feel uncomfortable with themselves and cause them to start to doubt their own feelings. If they’re being told over and over again that what they’re feeling is irrational or unreal, that what they’re feeling is somehow out of whack, then they start to accept that maybe it is.
Even when it’s not. Especially when it’s not.”
”—Harris O’Malley: ‘On Labeling Women ‘Crazy’’
(The Huffington Post)